晚年性愛,不只有恐怖

去年讀了一本叫做《恐怖老年性愛》的書,我始終沒有和大家分享,其一是因為文字頗為艱澀,其二是因為,故事真的好恐怖,然後我覺得性愛、老年性愛,應該不只有恐怖,或者我希望分享不恐怖的東西。

終於,發現了很棒的老年性愛、親密主題,可以和大家分享。這是一個提供關係經營、支持的英國組織 relate,與攝影師 Rankin 的合作計畫 – Let’s Talk The Joy of Later Life Sex.



這項計畫就是希望打破對於老年親密關係的成見,調查顯示在英國,六十歲以上的人,只有五分之一認為可以聊性愛,六十五歲以上的話,只有十趴的人談論時不會不舒服。
大多數人的理由都是因為覺得尷尬、不想讓其他人覺得不舒服、不知道怎麼提起、沒有自信等等。


此計畫採訪拍攝了五對情侶和一名婦人,聊聊晚年生活的親密關係。
這些受訪者來自不同種族、不同性傾向,有著不同的身體與生命經驗(其中一位受訪者經歷乳房切除手術)。
透過訪談,可以感受到性愛與時光的魔法,很真實、很可愛,節錄一些對話,分享給大家。

Margaret

argaret: “My sex life with my husband, was intense, through the whole of our marriage. As we got older it got better! ”

Andrew and Mark

Andrew and Mark
“We’ll lie in bed, and we both love reading in bed. And we’ll lie back to back. But feet would be touching and it’s moments like that, that are important to you.”
“I think the older you get the better you get at it. ”

Lynne and George

Lynne and George
“As we get older we get more experimental, because you’re fed up of having rice and peas every day, so you’ve gotta mix it up.”
“My advice to the old people, is that stop blaming age and saying “oh I’m too old for this”, “I’m too old for that” – to make love to have sex. As Lynne said before, life is for living! ”

Daphne and Arthur

Daphne and Arthur
“I think intimacy comes naturally because intimacy is sharing everything not just your body.”
“I know kids think older people don’t have sex but I don’t think it’s necessary tied with age.”

Chrissie and Roger

Chrissie and Roger
“As I’ve gotten older, sex has become more a result of great friendship. More than that physical desire and need.”
“ if you’ve had surgery, you physically either cannot have sex or are too uncomfortable to have sex. Then the intimacy, the love that couple share often shines through.”

Billie and Cora



Billie and Cora
“Sex is nothing to do with the age.”
“ I always put extra, on his wallet. Just to make it sure. (laughter)”

來源文章:https://www.relate.org.uk/blog/2021/4/23/lets-talk-joy-later-life-sex

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